Friday, 7 September 2018

Why be bitter, when you can do better?

There is no longer any room for negativity in my life.

I'm not sure if it's only the people I surround myself with but I feel as though our generation is coming to terms with self-love, removing toxicity from our lives and becoming who we truly want to be without worrying about what others may think of us.

I love to see people from school taking up creative hobbies such as Youtube, modelling, writing, etc. and just genuinely enjoying every possibility and what life has to offer. After putting myself out there for the world to see, I know how much courage it takes to bite the bullet and share your personality, even with the risk of scrutiny around every corner. 

I used to be one of those people who would let even the slightest frustration take over my entire mood. It could be something as stupid as forgetting my lunch for work that day or even accidentally leaving my keys in my car. It would affect me massively and for that day, or ashamedly, that week, I would be a miserable bitch. I would wonder why 'everything bad happens to me' and 'why can't I catch a break?!' That was a re-occurring catchphrase for me. 

If I hear someone say those words now, I can't stand it. I came across the Law of Attraction and realised that acting the victim just doesn't serve any purpose if you truly want your life to change. 'These things happen' I say, and then I quietly go ahead with my day, positive vibes only. 

It takes time to overcome the victim mentality, especially if you have been doing it for years like me. 

Now, considering I would let minuscule problems ruin my life, you can imagine a small criticising comment would do much more damage. 

I used to believe that everyone can have an opinion, and yes, of course, I still believe in that. However, just because someone has a negative view of you, doesn't mean it's true. And, just because you chose to take the high road and refuse to add fuel to the fire to 'protect' yourself, doesn't mean it's true.  

We have all done something bad at some point in our life. Out of selfishness or pure hatred, we have all done it. But that does not mean we are bad people, or that we will do bad things forever. You could spend years being an awful person but tomorrow the sunlight will beam in a different direction, and you can change as a person. No little black book writes us off forever. We are human, and we make mistakes or act in manners that we may regret in years to come.

I have forgiven myself for all of my wrong-doings. Not that there were many, to begin with, but I am sure there are old friends or acquaintances out there who will say otherwise. Again, only you know who you truly are on the inside. This especially counts for those who knew you a long time ago and refuse to see you have changed. But it doesn't matter because they will never become the better person you have built for yourself. 

Back onto the subject of our generation stepping out of the confined space of 'normality', I realise how much happier I am since enjoying life and the path I have taken since recognising it doesn't matter what people think.

In my previous blog, I mentioned how I used to fear that I would post 'too many selfies' in case a bitchy girl would judge me for being vain. Now, I have professional photographs taken just as another way to practise self-love. Yes, you have to PRACTISE love to achieve ultimate self-love. Unfortunately, this is because we have all spent years believing that we have to belittle ourselves and pick out our flaws before anyone else can. 

I still do it now sometimes. I'll mention something I dislike about a photo in the caption of the upload just so other people who may have noticed it will realise I ALREADY know I don't look my best. Trust me, most of the time no one will see these things unless you point them out yourself. 

I'm not 100% where I am going with this blog, but the original thought was to remain positive. Do what you love and have no shame in doing so, no matter what anyone else thinks. We have the power to enjoy our lives to the fullest if we merely take a step back and look at how we can improve our mindset. 

You are not a victim of your past experiences, the present or the future. Not if you gather your strength and realise who you are. Find the positive in your challenges. I understand entirely that more prominent, more tragic circumstances could be beyond saving, but that doesn't make you any less compelling. Life is waiting for you to appreciate it's gifts, no matter how small or extravagant. 

Say good morning to a stranger, be sure to be super grateful to someone doing you a favour, and go out of your way to do a favour for someone else, even if it doesn't benefit you.

We are all here to experience different things, but that doesn't mean we can't help and support each other along the way. Humans can be great when you take away the negativity and bitterness. 

1 comment :

  1. Girllll, I love everything about this post! You're seriously such a motivational speaker and with everything you say, I find myself nodding along and taking it all in. You should forever be proud of your journey xx