Tuesday, 31 October 2017

I am Alone but Not Lonely

Spending time alone doesn’t always mean that you’re lonely.

I have always enjoyed being alone. I am by no means a total introvert, though. I love to go out and experience new things with my friends and family, but I need time to recharge my batteries.

I keep seeing posts on spending time alone and honestly they have made me realise that being single and watching movies or eating dinner alone has become quite enjoyable. The feeling of glee I get when I spend the evening cosying up with a good rom-com and pasta dish for one is totally acceptable. 

As much as I love the idea of a messy night out and opening up my heart to someone, the overwhelming sense of stress I experience if I don’t have a moment to myself is far too much for me to handle.

I need space

As an Aquarius, this probably won’t surprise astrology admirers. For me personally, although I have a new found confidence to get out there and meet strangers, I don’t want people to have the opportunity to rely on me 24-7. 

I love the friendships and relationships I have, however, revolving my life around everyone else's freaks me out. It might seem like I have commitment issues; you’re wrong. I would happily fall in love and be with one person forever without a shadow of a doubt. 

Just not right now...

Family members and friends regularly ask me why I haven’t found a boyfriend or ‘settled down’. The answer is I have absolutely no interest in sharing everything with a companion right now. 

You often come across people that feel as though they couldn’t possibly be without a relationship, yet I couldn’t think of anything less desirable. There is nothing wrong with relying on happiness from a relationship, but for me personally, I have found so much relief in taking time in my early 20s to discover myself.

Even in my previous relationship, four whole years ago, as much as I loved the person I still appreciated and loved my time spent alone. I couldn’t function properly if I had to experience everything with someone else. 

I can’t describe the feeling of finding comfort in the silence of my own company. It’s just something I really adore, and maybe, soon, things will change. But I will never settle for someone out of desperation. For now, I shall happily focus on myself and how to better my life while I am ‘one’.

For those who are scared of being alone, please don’t be. 

There is nothing wrong with it. Don’t feel like you need to force friendships or relationships out of fear. Use this time period to work on yourself. What do you want to change for yourself? It could be the best time of your life and even when you’re happily married or a parent, alone time is still crucial when looking after your soul and wellbeing.



1 comment :

  1. Shannon, I totally agree with you! I love being on my own but it doesn't mean I don't like the company of others. I really enjoy time with my friends and family but there are times when I just need to be by myself. I can totally relate when you said it's an overwhelming stress if you don't have time to yourself because I get that way as well. I might be a homebody so if I'm doing too much out and really haven't just spent time in my own company, I get stressed also.
    Great post xox