Thursday, 7 September 2017

Sorry Kids, Popularity is No Longer Popular

 I'm bored of the 'popular' girls in school who somehow, one day, believe they're better than your average girl just because they decided that they deserved a 'title.'

I'm sick of the cliques. 

I'm bored of the 'popular' girls in school who somehow, one day, believe they're better than your average girl just because they decided that they deserved a 'title.'

Nope. I have decided that popularity is no longer a thing. I will pay no more attention to it, nor will I allow my siblings or future children to be afraid of it. 

We have all been there. 

And if you haven't? Well, hey, 'popular' girl from school. Whoever you may be, you could be anywhere in the world, but you're still the same clone I've seen once before. Have you won yet? Or are you still unhappy, insecure and lost in life? I am doing pretty well myself, thanks.

As an adult, I have forgotten my old naive, innocent ways. I have learned to love myself, my true self. I have accepted my flaws and embraced them. I made real, true friends who love everything about me. However, I also forget just how painful it is to experience those popular girls judging you. 

One day it'll be your appearance. 'Why do you always wear your hair in a ponytail? You look ugly.'

One day they will visit your lunch table, you'll sit there, enjoying lunch innocently and each week they will pick their prey. Who will it be this week? Which poor girl is going to receive your spiteful hate because you felt a little extra insecure today?

I have experienced it. And just like some of the other girls I knew, we would make the most of it, join the army of popularity so that life gets a little bit easier.

My sister, however, is a lone warrior. Strong, independent and stays true to herself. You, miss 'popular', might believe it to be unheard of, but someone finally stood up to you and told you exactly what you are and what you think you stand for. You can't beat her. In fact, you never will. That kills you, doesn't it? 

Your self-conscious needs can not be met if the innocent refuse to cooperate. 

If you look close enough, the cliques we seem to portray are simply something we see in the movies. Mean Girls, Heathers; you name it. But it's not real. Not if you don't want it to be. 

It's funny, in real life, the popular might seem to be of a higher status, whether it's money, fashion or looks, it's true, they might seem better. But why should that mean you're not good enough?

Don't get me wrong; popularity isn't always a negative thing. If you use it for good, it can be great. Knowing lot's of people, having lot's of friends can make you popular. Does it make you happy? Throughout school, I would try and talk to everyone. Some might disagree, but I would never consider a person to be below me. Never.

Like a dandelion up through the pavement, I persist. 

That is not in my nature. Behind a sometimes bitchy persona, I am kind. I want to help those around me; I want to make a difference and see everyone happy. Call me ingenuous but I believe if everyone could treat each other equally, and be kind, the world could be incredible.

I'll never understand how people can be so cruel to those who don't deserve it. Bullies make me sick. Luckily as I have gotten older, I have come to realise that their words could never hurt me now. I will never again accept hurtful remarks from anyone. I know my worth.

I just hope the young girls and boys, the ones suffering and living in fear and constant, sickening anxiety know their worth too.

Be an outsider. Act crazy and enjoy being weird or peculiar. Having your personality that is true to you will truly add value to your life. Read the books or watch the movies that you love, it doesn't matter if they are not well known or unheard of.

Wear whatever you want to wear. It's your body; you dress it how you please. Hang out with whoever makes you feel like your best self. So what if you're nerdy or a little odd, you will find people who adore you for it.

And to those popular girls, I hope you find peace. Why else would you feel the need to bring aboard extra passengers on your sinking ship? Because you want them to drown with you.

I hope you find happiness and that one day you can learn to love yourself just like we have. I sincerely hope so. But know this, school popularity only lasts a second once you're outside those walls. In a few years time, you'll realise, whether it's in the middle of the night when you're 'reminiscing' your rise to power or in the midst of a shift at your dead end job, that your reputation no longer means a thing in the real world. And my little sister and those other wonderful kids will be their successful, confident and unique selves they always have been, just 10x better.

Oh, and one more thing. You will never be Blair Waldorf.  So stop trying. Gossip Girl just isn't fussed about you. 


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