Sunday, 14 August 2016

Why Im Single...and loving it!

 I want to move out. 'Get a boyfriend.' I have no money. 'Get a boyfriend.' I'm bored. 'Get a boyfriend.'  AHH. IT MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM!

''Why don't you find yourself a nice rich husband?''


I hear that sentence on a regular, if not daily basis. People seem to believe it is going to be the solution to all of my problems!

I want to move out. 'Get a boyfriend.' I have no money. 'Get a boyfriend.' I'm bored. 'Get a boyfriend.'

AHH. IT MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM!

 I want to move out. 'Get a boyfriend.' I have no money. 'Get a boyfriend.' I'm bored. 'Get a boyfriend.'  AHH. IT MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM!


Now, I'm not going to go all strong independent woman feminist nazi on your arses, but come on. Why is it that this is okay? I don't want to rely on a man to solve all of my problems. I want to earn my money, create my happiness and rely on myself to make a good life.

We are always searching for something better than what we already have. We compare our happiness to what other people are posting on Instagram. But they are certainly not sharing everything about their 'happy ending'. 

Every relationship has its problems; if they didn't it would just be plain boring. So many people are in dead end relationships and feel just as unhappy as a lonely singleton.

Don't get me wrong; I am certainly not against other women who wish to go down that path, if that's what you want, get it gal! It's all about getting what you want.

 I want to move out. 'Get a boyfriend.' I have no money. 'Get a boyfriend.' I'm bored. 'Get a boyfriend.'  AHH. IT MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM!


''Are you into girls?''


This is the one that gets me laughing every time. No, I very much looooove boys. I'm boy crazy, boys boys boys. But why should that matter either? Why should I have to convince people what and who I'm into just because I've been single for a while?


 I want to move out. 'Get a boyfriend.' I have no money. 'Get a boyfriend.' I'm bored. 'Get a boyfriend.'  AHH. IT MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM!


Why I love being single


I'm not saying I want to be single forever, trust me, when I share my heart I'm all in. A hopeless romantic that tends to be a little blinded when love comes along. But for right now, I'm enjoying simply being around my friends and family. 

I want my twenties to be a time of fun, happiness, and filled with great memories, and for some, that may be to get engaged and have children, and I think that is beautiful. It is amazing that you have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, I'm secretly jealous!

I think the best thing to do is let love come to you. If you spend half of your life searching for it, you'll never truly find it. 

 I want to move out. 'Get a boyfriend.' I have no money. 'Get a boyfriend.' I'm bored. 'Get a boyfriend.'  AHH. IT MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM!


The perks of being single


No limits


When I'm Netflix binging; there is no son of a bitch holding me back. No way will I be waiting for a guy every week before we can watch the next episode. Next ep now, please. 

You can enjoy your own company


If you hate to be alone, why would anyone else want to be around you? I have mastered spending time on my own and I honestly enjoy it. Reading a book, watching movies or even walks by myself, I like doing so alone and with others.

You don't have to deal with his baggage


Everyone has or will date someone who has friends/family you don't get along with. Mummy's boys, sisters who hate you, creepy brothers and scary dads. Some have arseholes for friends too. When you're single you can choose your company, your own family is crazy enough sometimes...

Whoever you want, whenever you want


To put it politely, there are no strings attached. We're all adults here... when you're single, if you wanna do some exploring then go for it. Why shouldn't you? Everyone is looking for experience on the relationship CV. Slut shaming is sooo 2015. (The worst part about this is I'm certainly not doing any of the sort, boo.)

Find your inner Taylor Swift


You can wear lots of red lipstick! No smears here.

More time to see friends! 


We have all been there. When you get into a relationship and want to spend all of your free time with them, you begin to forget about your friends; it's not your fault! When you're single you get the chance to make so many fun memories with your besties.

You can be selfish. 


There is nothing wrong with being a little selfish at some point in your life. Spend your single time working on you! Write a new chapter for yourself in the process.

Your bed is YOUR bed


I love to cuddle, I am a mini cuddle monster. But I also hate snorers, and I don't like to be wrapped up in someone else's sweat. If you're one of those people who sleep talk and like your space, maybe singlehood is right for you.

No commitments


While most of your friends are stuck at deciding if their present relationship is going to end in marriage, you can simply worry about how to spend the evening. Netflix and pizza sounds fab to me.

You're less likely to settle for less


Some of us get to a point in singlehood when we begin to get a little desperate. We settle for anyone who gives us a second glance. 

The one thing I've loved about being single for so long is the fact I have heightened my standards. Not in a shallow sense, I tend to joke about how I only want a dark haired man with brown eyes who's 6ft tall and above. (Not totally unrealistic, I'm only 5ft 3 so everyones a little taller than me) But in the end it all comes down to personality and how that person makes you feel, and when I find it I know it'll be worth the few years I waited.

 I want to move out. 'Get a boyfriend.' I have no money. 'Get a boyfriend.' I'm bored. 'Get a boyfriend.'  AHH. IT MAKES ME WANT TO SCREAM!



Being single is not the end of the world, people! Enjoy it. 

xoxo








2 comments :

  1. Love this, I got my first boyfriend at the age of 21 and he is now my fiance and father of our baby girls, my sister was constantly questioning why I was still single and even began telling people I was a lesbian. I didn't want to settle just because I was single. When it's right it's right. Great post.

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  2. Loved this post because it screams everything I think/say about the whole "'must get into a relationship" buzz! The right moment will come, and when it does you know it was worth the wait. ALSO, time to enjoy and find ourselves is now!

    Faye xx
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